Marriage is never a complete walk in the street and you} the park. Even when married couples are flying a vitalising flight path, wing-rattling turbulence is never too far away. At all times everyone can improve their marriage.
The following ten issues need to be talked about in marriage:
1 . Communications - married couples are notorious for communications that resemble the Tower of Babel story. Somehow communication gets confused. The married couple who step into each other's minds and hearts, and learn to listen, and prioritise the other's needs, will enjoy less conflict.
2 . Conflict Resolution - when emotions have free reign in communication conflict gets worse, not better. The couple that organises to discuss and resolve conflicts in mature calmness saves a lot of individual and mutual stress. Conflicts cannot be avoided forever.
3. Financial Management - couples to a marriage need to be able to trust each other with money. Perhaps one partner is frugal, while the other is carefree. Couples need to talk about vital compromises when it comes to money.
4. Affection and sexuality - these issues are potentially polarising; in general terms women seek affection and man seek sex. But both affection and sex are necessary in every marriage. Sufficient time and care (affection) needs to go into the process of sex in the authentic love-making experience. Sex needs to be talked about, as does affection.
5. Family and Friends - couples must talk about the impact of family and friends on the marriage. Other people, no matter how much we love them, mustn't be allowed to compromise the intimacy value inherent in the marriage.
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